So… what do you want to do after graduation?ย 

“Basia, so what do you want to do after graduation?”

This is the question I get asked the most. There is nothing wrong with it, yet every time I hear it, something in my stomach turns upside down and I get a little bit nervous.

When my mom asked me that question today, I cried. Why? Because I’m scared. “What are you so afraid of?” – she said. “I’m afraid of the unknown” “But if you don’t know what will happen then how can you be afraid of it?”

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I thought a lot about the topic called “future“, believe me. I asked my friends the same question I get asked multiple times a week. Talking to people made me realize that it is not only about not knowing what will happen and fearing the “after graduation” life. The funny thing is that when I changed the question from “what do you want to do after graduation?” to “if you could do anything, have any kind of job in the world, what would it be? What would that dream job be?” – every singe person was able to answer.

We all have dreams and deep down inside we know what we think, would be right for us. It’s just very hard to talk about it out loud. Why? I think it’s because it seems impossible to achieve, according to some. We come up with answers that will make us sound good and “figured out” and that will satisfy those who care about us and wish us well. Honestly I feel like because of that we don’t really do what we actually want to do. We run away, get scared.

When you ask a 4 year old : hey, what do you want to do when you grow up? Oh they will tell you right away! I want to be a policeman or an astronaut or I want to be a famous singer. I don’t think they are scared to dream of that.

I know that we can’t always do exactly what we want but… what if you never try? Or what if it’s sooooo hard, it’s just better to give up after one failure?

Nothing that has value in life, NOTHING, comes easy. Success doesn’t happen over night. Those people we look up to didn’t get where they are just like that. I know it..and you know it too. Yes, having luck is one thing, but persistence is way more important and without it, even luck can’t help it.

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It’s not about the fear of what will happen, it’s more about how hard you are willing to work to make that inner dream come true. The dream that is driving you crazy each time you think it could actually happen. The one you are so afraid of..

It’s easy to find substitutes. I am a master of running away from my biggest dreams. Are you?

What is your dream? What are you running away from? When you close your eyes, what would you wish your life could be?

I know what it is for me and I know you know what it is for you. Let me tell you something. It will be hard and it will take you a few years to get it, but you know what? It will happen if you just not stop, never ever stop. Couple of years from now you will sit in a chair and thank yourself that you did it, that all this hard work brought you to where you should be.

But please, do it. Promise me and yourself that no matter what, you will at least try. Not the “I tried and it didn’t work out” but the “I gave my heart into it and it wasn’t “it” but because of my hard work I am now in a different place, a happy place, a place I wouldn’t be if I didn’t dream”

The destination can change, but if you never take a chance andย the road to your dreams, you will never know what you could have had.

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Love,

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I missed my flight by 1 minute..

How can you miss a flight by 1 minute? Well, you can! ๐Ÿ™‚ย Here is how that happened.

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I received an email from OneTravel (that is where I bought the ticket), that my flight is delayed and will be leaving at 10 pm. I got to the airport at 8:45 pm just to find out that yes it was delayed, but now it’s not, and the airplane is leaving at 9:20 pm, just as it was originally scheduled.

Did I get another email about that? No ๐Ÿ™‚

I couldn’t do the check in myself so I got helped by one of the airport employees.ย  She looked at me and said : ” You can’t take this plane. You missed it by 1 minute and 6 seconds”ย 

One can argue that life in this situation is unfair. I could be mad and try to fight with the system. I think I could do all sorts of things but I didn’t. I was put on a standby list for a plane leaving 3 hours later.

Ok, but where does this whole story leads us to?

When I created this blog, (over a year ago now!), I chose a name happydays, because I believe that we can find positives in everything (almost! ๐Ÿ™‚ ). That is why I wanted to share this story with you!

For example, I got an exit row! So nice right? Sooo much space for legs (not that I need it, I’m very short haha) But hey! I felt super lucky! ๐Ÿ™‚ I missed my flight by 1 min, but at least I got to exit row on the next flight! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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Missing a flight is not the end of the world. Yes, you could be late to something, or even miss a meeting but there are worse things that are happening in the world. Don’t even make me give you examples.. You know exactly what I am talking about.

Soooo take a chill pill! Sit down, relax, use this time for something meaningful. Read a book, talk to your family, write a blog post ๐Ÿ™‚

What can you do, if you can’t do anything? ๐Ÿค—

Maybe today is a good day to notice what’s good in your life! Not bad, GOOD ๐Ÿ™‚

Try!

Love,

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How to live a meaningful life?

While we were driving from my brother’s graduation lunch, my cousin proposed that we should listen to Michael Jackson. Everybody agreed. Who would not?:) While listening to “Billie Jean”, Antek – my brother, asked how Jackson died, what happened to him, what is the story of his life.

Normal question right? To me it was a moment of realization. It hit me that everything that we have could end at any point.

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Life is short. We really take it for granted every single day. We have set amount of days, years and hours given, yet we waste so much of them on …

You can fill in the blank yourself.

So what does Michael Jackson has to do with it? Well, he made me think of what we are going to leave behind. What will stay after we are gone.

He left us with music that will last for years. He changed the way people dance, dress, listen to music. But even more than that, he was and still is a part of my life, your life. Through happy and sad moments. You can listen to his music at any point and feel something. Yes, he is gone, but he left us with music that will last forever in our lives.

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Ok, but what if you are not a musician? or an artist? Does that mean you can not make a change or difference?

Of course not! ๐Ÿ™‚

It is more about living with purpose, living with a thought that we only have a certain amount of time on this planet earth. Some more than others.

So what do you want to do? What is your dream? What is the change you want to see? What do you want to leave behind? How do you want to be remembered?

If you knew you have one more day left, would you be happy with what you have done so far?

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Meaningful life can be a lot of things. Here are some points that are important to me.

  1. Be the change you want to see in the world and don’t complain too much. There are people who would love to be where you are right now.
  2. Live today. Thinking ahead too much will not help if you can’t live a full life right at this moment.
  3. Find your purpose and purse it. Whatever it may be. People will tell you all the best advice in the world but at the end of the day, it is your life and you will live with the decisions you’ve made, not they.
  4. Love others.ย ย Treat everyone with love, as if they were your brothers and sisters.
  5. Find simple joy every single day. We wait for these huge moments to happen but to be honest, best things are happening right next to us and the magic of a meaningful life is to notice them.
  6. Serve other people. The world has an “I” problem. It’s about me, I. Once you notice that the power lays in “we” “together” “me for you”, your life will be much happier.
  7. Give more than receive. Love always comes back and once you start giving it, it will come back to you in the time of need twice as big as what you gave, believe me.
  8. Be thankful.ย Imagine you wake up tomorrow with only those things you thanked for today.. Exactly. So be grateful for all that you have.

Call your family, tell them you love them. Be the change you want to see. Live a life you would be proud of at the end of your time on this earth and remember that life is so much more than “I”.

It is never too late to start over. You can do it right now.

Love,

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